He Took the First Step
Reconciliation Always Starts With Someone Moving

Paul Durbin • Lead Pastor
June 4, 2026

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Reconciliation always takes two parties. One person can do everything in their power, but if the other doesn't respond, nothing changes. Anyone who's lived through a broken relationship knows this in their bones.

Here's what wrecks me about the gospel: we were the ones who walked away. Paul says we were "alienated" and "enemies in our minds because of our evil behavior." That's strong language. And yet Colossians 1 doesn't say humanity finally figured it out, climbed high enough, prayed loud enough, or got religious enough to earn God's attention. It says He reconciled us. He moved first. He took the step. He gave His own body on the cross to close the gap we created.

Think about that the next time you feel far from God. He's not standing across the canyon with arms folded, waiting for you to perform your way back. He already crossed. The blood of Jesus has already been shed. The hand is already extended. Your part is simply to receive it.

And here's the beautiful ripple effect: because He moved toward us, we get to move toward others. That relationship you've been waiting on someone else to fix? Maybe you're the one who gets to be like Jesus this week. Maybe you take the first step. Maybe you send the text. Maybe you offer the hug before the words come.

That's what people who are on belay do—we move first, because Someone moved first for us.

165 | Why Should Jesus Be the Center?

In this message from Colossians 1:15-23, Pastor Paul Durbin walks us through what many scholars call the most Christ-centered passage in the New Testament. Paul unpacks eight powerful reasons Jesus insists on being the center of our lives—not a welcome guest, not an add-on, but the absolute nucleus around which everything else revolves. From Jesus being the visible image of the invisible God, to the Creator who holds all things together, to the One who reconciles us back to the Father through the cross, this teaching invites us to ask an honest question: Is Jesus truly at the center of my life?

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June 4, 2026 • 2 Minute Read
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Reconciliation always takes two parties. One person can do everything in their power, but if the other doesn't respond, nothing changes. Anyone who's lived through a broken relationship knows this in their bones. Here's what wrecks me about the gospel: we were the ones who walked away. Paul says we were "alienated" and "enemies in our minds because of our evil behavior." That's strong language. And yet Colossians 1 doesn't say humanity finally figured it out, climbed high enough, prayed loud enough, or got religious enough to earn God's attention. It says He reconciled us. He moved first. He took the step. He gave His own body on the cross to close the gap we created. Think about that the next time you feel far from God. He's not standing across the canyon with arms folded, waiting for you to perform your way back. He already crossed. The blood of Jesus has already been shed. The hand is already extended. Your part is simply to receive it. And here's the beautiful ripple effect: because He moved toward us, we get to move toward others. That relationship you've been waiting on someone else to fix? Maybe you're the one who gets to be like Jesus this week. Maybe you take the first step. Maybe you send the text. Maybe you offer the hug before the words come. That's what people who are on belay do—we move first, because Someone moved first for us.reconcile

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